Family matchmaking tradition
Harith Al Khafaji grew up in a matchmaking family that has been successfully bringing couples together from all over Europe for over 30 years . He has been familiar with successful relationship dynamics since childhood.
Sound expertise
I have studied hundreds of books on psychology, communication, and relationship dynamics – from John Gottman to neuroscience. Combined with my own transformation and decades of practical experience.
From meeting to starting a family
Hundreds of men have found their life partner through our coaching. We show you how to meet women, go on dates, and develop an equal relationship – step by step .
Dating is not a game of chance – it's a system .
Most men leave their search for a partner to chance and wonder why nothing happens. I'll show you a clear, step-by-step approach that not only works but is also sustainable.
Who is matchmaking coaching suitable for?
Working men between 25 and 45 years old who have their careers under control
You're successful professionally. Sales manager, engineer, entrepreneur – you've got your life under control. But when it comes to dating? Completely clueless.
Your party days are over. Most people around you are in relationships. Online dating isn't leading to anything serious. You just don't know where or how to meet women who are truly right for you anymore.
Added to this are the patterns from your past: You're too nice and end up in the friend zone. Or you pretend to be someone you're not and come across as artificial. You overanalyze every interaction instead of simply being yourself.
The result? Your dating life passes you by, while your career and everyday life take over.
That's in your obstacle
This is why successful men fail at dating.
You've got your career on track, you earn a good salary, you're well-educated – but your dating life just isn't working out. Either you end up in the friend zone, or the dates remain superficial. You ask yourself: "Why does it work professionally, but not personally?"
Our proven 3-step approach
From inner clarity to a successful relationship
MINDSET, STYLING & ATTITUDE
MEETING WOMEN
DATES & RELATIONSHIP BUILDING
MINDSET, STYLING & ATTITUDE
We start with the foundations: your mindset, your outward appearance, and your body language. Here we also clarify what you really want and who you are – the basis for everything else.
MEETING WOMEN
You'll learn where and how to meet women who are right for you – both online and offline. We'll develop your individual strategy that fits your lifestyle.
DATES & RELATIONSHIP BUILDING
From the first date to a committed relationship: You'll learn how to plan dates, how to behave, and how to build genuine connections. Practical and concrete.
You can achieve this through our training & consulting.
PARTNER ON EYE LEVEL
You won't find just any partner, but a woman on equal footing with whom you can build a future. Starting a family, pursuing shared goals, enjoying life together – finally no longer going through life alone.
INNER CLARITY AND SELF-CONFIDENCE
You discover aspects of yourself you never knew existed. Old blocks dissolve , and you gain clarity about your values and strengths. You radiate this newfound self-confidence – not only to women, but also at work and in everyday life.
NATURALNESS IN DEALING WITH PEOPLE
You approach others in a relaxed and authentic way – without inner pressure or endless thought loops. New contacts are formed effortlessly , conversations flow naturally, and you finally feel comfortable in your own skin.
Alexander R., Frankfurt am Main
Success story:
"After years of unsuccessful dating, Harith's network directly connected me with my current partner. No more endless dating carousel - just the right woman at the right time."
— Alexander R., 38, Financial Advisor | Russian descent, grew up in Germany
Ahmad A., Heidelberg
Success story:
"I'd been on plenty of dates - but I just didn't know how to act. Too nice, no excitement. Harith showed me how to stay authentic and still be attractive. Now dates are completely different."
— Ahmad A., 34, department head at a large software company | Arab descent, grew up in Germany
David M., Munich
Success story:
"Online dating was useless, and in real life I didn't know where to start. Through Harith's system, I learned how to approach women and set up dates - without tricks, just being myself."
— David M., 31, management consultant | from a strongly Catholic family, grew up near Landshut on the Isar River
This is how the coaching process works
Structured process with personal support
STEP 1:
CURRENT & TARGET STATE ANALYSIS
In our free initial consultation, we'll analyze your current situation and define together where you want to go. What is your goal? What kind of partner are you looking for?
STEP 2:
MINDSET, STYLING & ATTITUDE
We start with the basics: your inner and outer presentation. You will receive specific tasks – written or practical – which you will complete independently.
STEP 3:
MEET WOMEN (ONLINE & OFFLINE)
You'll learn where and how to meet and approach women. With practical tasks that you can implement in everyday life – accompanied by weekly 1:1 calls and WhatsApp support.
STEP 4:
DATES & RELATIONSHIPS
You'll gain dating experience and learn how to move from a first date to a committed relationship. We'll guide you every step of the way.
✓ Weekly 1:1 video calls
✓ WhatsApp support between calls
✓ Individual tasks tailored to your situation
From bullied child to bad boy & nice guy to authentic man
Harith Al-Khafaji is 37 years old and grew up in a matchmaking family . For over 30 years, his family has successfully brought couples together from all over Europe – he knows relationship dynamics firsthand, from the most beautiful successes to the most painful disasters.
As an electrical engineer and co-owner of a family business in the electrical trade, he is professionally successful. But his real path began much earlier: Even during his studies, he faced the choice between electrical engineering and psychology – and alongside his engineering studies, he intensively studied psychology.
HIS TRANSFORMATION
Harith was bullied as a child. As a young teenager, he compensated by becoming a bad boy : he got up to no good, dated several women simultaneously, and didn't let anyone push him around – neither men nor women. He would verbally lash out if necessary.
Then came a toxic relationship that lasted for years. It brought back the "Nice Guy Syndrome" that he thought he had left behind.
After that relationship, he met his ex-wife. This time he knew what he wanted – but he worked too much, suffered a burnout, and the marriage failed. Not due to a lack of feelings, but due to a lack of time and poor communication.
After the breakup, he faced a choice: continue suffering or grow.
He chose growth.
HIS APPROACH
In the following years, Harith studied hundreds of books on psychology, communication, and relationship dynamics—from John Gottman and Robert Greene to neuroscientific treatises by Dr. Joe Dispenza. He also read specialist articles, scientific studies, and conducted practical field research.
But more important than the theory: He has experienced it all himself.
He approached women, went on dates, made mistakes, and learned from them. Even during his "nice guy phases," he met women through his lifestyle – but didn't know how to behave properly.
Today he is neither a bad boy nor a nice guy. He is authentic.
Through his family's matchmaking tradition, Harith has guided hundreds of men through dating, first dates, and building relationships. He knows every stage – from the initial approach to a long-term partnership.
His coaching is aimed at professionally successful men who think analytically, desire a classic division of roles , and are looking for a woman on equal footing – not just any woman.
No pick-up tricks. No games. No manipulation. Just genuine growth and authentic attraction.
He shows you how to approach women, go on dates and have relationships – based on genuine personality development, not superficial techniques.
Sound expertise
📚 Author of "Zwischen den Welten" – A Behavioral Therapy Approach to Trauma Integration
💑 30+ years of matchmaking tradition – hundreds of couples accompanied
🧠 Hundreds of books & articles on dating, psychology & communication
🔬 Personal transformation – From bullied to bad boy and nice guy to authenticity
💼 10+ years of sales experience – communication, negotiation & interpersonal skills at the highest level
⚖️ Analytical thinking meets emotional depth – engineer with a psychological background
Ready to take control of your dating life ?
No more guesswork and uncertainty. In a free consultation, we analyze your situation and develop your individual plan – from the first step to finding an equal partner.
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